What is anger?
Anger is a pre-conflict state.
First of all, tension begins, adrenaline secretion increases, which increases energy, breathing becomes more frequent, heartbeat accelerates, blood pressure increases, body, and mind are ready for the ‘fight or flight’ response.
Finding out why anger feeds is as important as its solution. Among the reasons that cause this tension, “restraint” and “restriction” are common. Not meeting physiological needs such as thirst, hunger feelings, and unsuitable conditions can also trigger anger. If we think of anger as a spiritual, emotional disorder, obsessed people tend to be angrier. They cannot bear the order that meets their expectations to deteriorate due to an external reason.
Individuals with certain personality traits may find it difficult to control their anger; eg Anti-social personalities. This needs to be proven in order to talk about the effect of genetic traits on anger control. On the other hand, anger management problems related to manners, upbringing, and upbringing can also be experienced.
Anger Control starts in family
Although it is not possible to eliminate anger, it is very important to be able to control the behaviors made with this emotion. “What happened then I got angry, what pissed me off?” It is useful to ask the question and think about it. Families have a great job in controlling and managing anger. Among the basic training that should be given to children; There is also anger control.
Anger is a joy at the beginning.
Every person gets angry, it is not unusual to feel anger. And a feeling that doesn’t disappear unless you share it. In fact, angry people have a pleasant feeling at first. The negativities occur when anger is not controlled and continues. It is seen as a much more correct behavior not to cover up and talk about anger.
7 steps to anger management
- Remember that anger cannot be eliminated.
- Anger is not an emotion that disappears without being shared. Share why you are angry, what you are going through, what your feelings are, and how you are feeling.
- Listen to yourself and each other.
- Remember that if you share your feelings, your anger will be more reasonable.
- Try to digest the development of the event, the processes, and the reactions received.
- If you can’t control your anger, choose to stay away from the anger-generating environment and situation.
- Remember, no matter what your character trait is, you are not entitled to harm anyone else.